While children bring great happiness, they also ensure that the lifestyle of their parents is turned on its head. While earlier you may have had the time to nurture your relationship as a couple, once the children arrive, this effectively takes a back seat. All the passion and fire that once was the envy of your acquaintances disappears under stacks of nappies. A child demands constant attention, which leaves very little time for the partner. Even if you somehow happen to find the time, you will be left with neither the energy nor the inclination to get romantic after a day that does not seem to end. In most cases this is the fate of romance after having children.
Another reason why romance is relegated to the background is because priorities change. Now the focus is more on the kids and the family instead of the husband wife relationship. Their own requirements are put on hold while the kids take center stage. Pressures of the workplace along with the constant demands of the children place a heavy burden on the couples and romance becomes a thing of the past after having children.
However, it is not necessary to sacrifice romance after having children. There are ways to keep the fire burning even in the face of all these challenges. The difference in your earlier and present relationship equation will only be that while earlier you had all the time in the world to play out all your romantic ideas, now you will have to make concerted effort to create time for each other. Remember that now quality will matter more than quantity of time spent together.
Try to squeeze in some couple time after putting the kids to bed. A new mother should ensure that she gets sufficient rest by sleeping when the baby sleeps during the day, so that when the spouse is back she is not too tired to spend a little romantic time together.
Once in a while hire a babysitter and go out together and discover romance there after.
There are numerous ways you can enjoy romance with your partner after putting the children to bed. On cold winter nights snuggle up together by the fireplace, or have a little picnic by the fireside. Include foods that are associated with romance like, cheese, chocolates, fruits and wine. During the summers sit on the terrace under the stars and gaze into each others eyes.
Spark up your romance that has ebbed after having children, with a bubble bath together. Try out some romantic games. Watch the DVD of a movie that both of you like.
And there is nothing to beat the feeling of closeness that comes with cuddling up to each other while enjoying a close and intimate conversation in bed.
With so many options available you can ignite the romance that you once relished, even after having children. Do not allow your childcare or household duties to inhibit you from bonding with each other and enjoying romance after having children.